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BEYOND REAL ESTATE

told by Don and Sandy Ollsin


Don: My sister Darlene was 58 years old. She had leukemia and couldn’t find a bone marrow transplant. She lasted an amazing length of time on her own. She finally collapsed at home and was taken to hospital.

We came down to see her a few days afterward with my mother, who was 87 years old. Darlene was totally agitated, and trying to make a “real estate deal”. Sandy and I are comfortable with death, so we went right up to her. Darlene was going in and out of delirium. She would keep trying to do a real estate deal and get more agitated, “We gotta sign that deal!”

When she went into a quieter space I would go, “Um hum, uh huh.” I would do that a couple of times. She would go in and out of more remote states. The third time she went way inside. If her eyelids fluttered I’d say, “See what you are seeing.” She went really deep, very quiet for quite awhile. She came back out and looked at us and told a story: “I’ve just been on a journey. I was learning to walk, to talk.”

Sandy: Darlene said, “I was learning to walk and then I couldn’t; then I was falling learning to walk. I was barefoot in the grass, something very beautiful.”

Don: Her whole continence had changed, then she went back inside, gone for 1/2 hour or so. She came out again, and was more cognizant, not so confused. Then she wanted to physically get out of bed, “Sit me up , sit me up!” She wanted to get up. And from then on she was a new person until she died six days later.

Sandy: Originally Darlene’s face had been scrunched, and she sounded angry and frustrated, all contorted. When she came out after the third time, her face was really smooth and peaceful, and she looked happy.

Don: I did a minimal amount. I knew so little about coma work, just what I’ve heard you folks (Ann and Stan) talk about. She was stuck in there and nobody knew how to support her with her journey. One wellmeaning friend wanted her to act normal and play cards. No one could relate with her where she was at. Physically, mentally, and emotionally she responded dramatically to a few “uh huh's” and some encouragement, by dropping her normal identity as a realtor.

Sandy: After coming out of delirium she wanted to kiss everybody. She grabbed me and hugged me. She was really loving to everyone for her last six days.

Copyright 2002 by Don and Sandy Ollsin
Used with permission.

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